Most people in the dating arena are worried about figuring out how to attract a partner. In other words, they’re still trying to get their foot in the door. This could mean they’re still building up the courage to ask someone out… or even to verify whether they’re single in the first place.
But that’s not the most nerve-wracking part of dating. Imagine you’ve finally secured a date with someone you’re interested in, and then you have a magical first date. Your interests are aligned, you don’t hate their laugh, and there wasn’t an awkward approach to who would pay for dinner.
And then… what? While those butterflies are a great sign that you’re with someone who makes you feel good, dating is all about exploring the future together. A trip to a restaurant or a movie won’t cut it as your interest in someone develops. As time goes on, you’ll need to craft the perfect date to help foster growth and connection.
Here are a few perfect date suggestions, broken down by what you feel your relationship needs.
Deepen the Connection by Trying Something New Together
If you’re feeling a little unexcited by another boring date, then switch things up and try something new. This might mean trying out a new and challenging game, like poker. The game involves bluffing, crafting the perfect hand, and the art of calling and raising. Given many players play poker online for real money, there are dozens of quality platforms to choose from when learning and playing.
If poker sounds too challenging, consider deepening your connection by traveling to a new place. Whether learning a card game or exploring a cozy downtown street, diving into the unknown helps generate curiosity and trust. It might also help you learn a bit more about your partner’s temperament and approach to life.
Learn More About Each Other by Developing a New Skill
Trying something new can help you deepen a connection… but actually, developing a new skill is a great way to learn more about your partner. This could mean taking a local class together, whether a beginner Spanish course or an introductory ceramics class.
Regardless of what type of activity you choose, learning a new skill will help you understand your partner from a new perspective. You’ll see them encounter difficulties, as well as how they overcome adversity. After all, it’s easy to put your best foot forward while on a first date… but what happens when you get sticky ceramics clay all over your favorite pair of pants?
Show Them You Care by Tailoring the Date
Once those first few dates are out of the way, crafting a date night is one of the best ways to demonstrate how much you care about someone. What sort of things have you heard your partner mention? Do they tend to enjoy a certain flavor, color, or even a song?
The more you know, the more you can tailor a date to their exact interests. This could mean buying tickets to a concert they would enjoy or making time to stop by their favorite dessert place after grabbing a bite. Here, you’re not uncovering something new about your partner. You’re simply showing that you care for them—and looking out for signs that they appreciate that attention.
Don’t Forget About All the Small Things
Now that you’ve deepened your connection, tossed your partner into unexpected situations, and then demonstrated that you care about their interests great and small, it’s time to dive into life’s mundanities. After all, the ‘honeymoon’ phase will end, and then you’re stuck with things like shared laundry, shared bills, and shared afternoons spent at home.
If you’re feeling great about your partner and want to test the waters for the future, then don’t craft the perfect date. That’s right. Take them around with you while you complete errands. If they withstand the test of boredom and mundanity, then it’s a strong sign they’re in it for the long haul.